“For grievers, they see life in two stages. Before, & after.“
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My name is Robyn Feder, I am 28 years old, and a little over 8 weeks ago, my life changed forever. On April 11, 2019, grief swept in like a thief in the night, stealing something never to be returned. On that day, the world lost a father, grandfather, friend, mentor, a legendary marine biologist, & veteran. But on that day, I not only lost my dad, but my best friend and the best man I’ve ever known. My biggest supporter, my hero, my everything. On April 11, 2019, I feel like a part of me passed away with my dad. I realized that grief is far worse than anything I’ve heard about, read about, etc. Any amount of pain I’ve been told grief gives a person, has been far more painful than I imagined.
What I have learned in the short time since losing my dad, is that the day I lost my dad, was the day I joined a club no on wants to be a part of, but here we all are. I have connected more with strangers who have experienced loss than people I’ve known for years, and I have also learned that in some ways, grief and the passing away of someone can be a form of taboo. It’s not talked about enough. It’s not researched enough. It’s not understood enough. As I began to express my grief spontaneously through social media, I realized just HOW MANY of us are out there hurting. Some are hurting in silence, others hurting publicly, and others are somewhere in between.
I want this blog to be a place where I can connect with others grieving and those also grieving, can express their grief in a safe, comfortable, and nonjudgmental environment and know you are not alone in this awful club.
I plan to write a blog every Thursday, which is the day of week I lost my dad. Other than that, I have no guideline for myself for this blog, no rules, no real plans. My hope is that even if my blog reaches just one person, and helps them not feel alone, then my blog serves a greater purpose than I can imagine.
Grief, Giving Up, & Going On Club 